Modern Love

The New York Times

For more than 20 years, the Modern Love column has given New York Times readers a glimpse into the complicated love lives of real people. Since its start, the column has evolved into a TV show, three books and a podcast. Each week, host Anna Martin brings you stories and conversations about love in all its glorious permutations, dumb pitfalls and life-changing moments. New episodes every Wednesday. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.

  1. Subscriber Exclusive: This Week’s Modern Love Essay

    2 DAYS AGO · BONUS • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    Subscriber Exclusive: This Week’s Modern Love Essay

    Marriage is hard. It can be even harder when you don’t believe you deserve to be loved in the first place. Every Friday, subscribers to the New York Times can access the latest Modern Love column read aloud. The Modern Love Podcast publishes full-length episodes every Wednesday. This week’s essay is "‘Hey, How’s It Going? I’m Filing for Divorce Now.’" written by Olivia Huiyang Wang

    10 min
  2. I Was the Fun Dad. It Almost Destroyed My Marriage.

    4 DAYS AGO

    I Was the Fun Dad. It Almost Destroyed My Marriage.

    When Jordan Carlos looks back on the role he was playing in his family a few years ago, he does not like what he sees. He was bringing home a good salary as a comedian, but doing only the bare minimum as a husband and a dad. When Jordan did show up at home, he was more likely to take the kids out for an all-day candy binge than to take them to the dentist or to tuck them in by bedtime. But Jordan got a painful wake-up call when the pandemic hit and his work came to a halt. Home all the time, Jordan looked around and noticed that nobody seemed to need, or expect, any help from him. And his marriage was in serious trouble. This week on “Modern Love,” Jordan explains how he let things get so bad in the first place, and how day by day, chore by chore, he started to take responsibility for all the little things that actually mean a lot. Jordan’s book, “Choreplay: The Marriage-Saving Magic of Getting Your Head Out of Your Ass,” comes out Feb. 10. Listener Callout: “Modern Love” wants to hear from you. What’s the most romantic thing that has ever happened to you? What’s the most romantic thing you’ve ever witnessed? If something made you feel that rush of romance, send us a voice memo by Feb. 4, and we may use it on the show. Check out our submission page to learn more. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.

    43 min
  3. Subscriber Exclusive: This Week’s Modern Love Essay

    23 JAN · BONUS • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    Subscriber Exclusive: This Week’s Modern Love Essay

    If you choose to live your life on the road, you may end up having the best kiss of your life in the middle of the street. Every Friday, subscribers to the New York Times can access the latest Modern Love column read aloud. The Modern Love Podcast publishes full-length episodes every Wednesday. This week’s essay is "The Kiss That Stopped Traffic" written by Marya Hornbacher.

    10 min
  4. I Tried to Toughen Up My Son. He Had Other Ideas.

    21 JAN

    I Tried to Toughen Up My Son. He Had Other Ideas.

    Sam Graham-Felsen was not a tough child. He feared violence and didn’t feel that he could stand up for himself when he was bullied. His fear ate away at his confidence; he was afraid to go on dates, afraid to try hard in school. As an adult, he thought he had moved past those fears. But then he started to notice some of those same tendencies in his young son. Sam wanted to change that, so he took his son on a cross-country road trip to Badlands National Park, in search of what Theodore Roosevelt called “the strenuous life.” Along the way, he found himself wrestling with what it means to be a good man, and to raise a good man. This week on “Modern Love,” Sam explains what happened, and how his son changed his own ideas about what it means to be tough. You can read Sam’s original story in The New York Times Magazine. “Modern Love” wants to hear from you. What’s the most romantic thing that has ever happened to you? What’s the most romantic thing you’ve ever witnessed? If something made you feel that rush of romance, send us a voice memo, and we may use it on the show. Check out our submission page to learn more. How to submit a Modern Love Essay to the New York Times How to submit a Tiny Love Story Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.

    56 min
  5. This Week’s Modern Love Essay

    16 JAN · BONUS • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    This Week’s Modern Love Essay

    Why did I keep fantasizing about catching my faithful boyfriend in bed with another woman? Every Friday, subscribers to the New York Times can access the latest Modern Love column read aloud. The Modern Love Podcast publishes full-length episodes every Wednesday. This week’s essay is "Please Cheat on Me" written by Rachel Sontag.

    10 min
  6. Was I Married To A Stranger?

    14 JAN • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    Was I Married To A Stranger?

    Belle Burden was living the kind of life most can only dream of. Born into a wealthy New York family, she married a dashing attorney who had swept her off her feet. The couple had a beautiful apartment in Manhattan, a summer house on Martha’s Vineyard, three children, and what Belle thought was a happy marriage. Then, after 20 years, with no warning, her husband told her he wanted a divorce. Belle remembers him saying, “You can have custody of the kids, you can have the house and the apartment. I don't want any part of this life anymore.” In a moment, he became a stranger to her. As Belle tried to understand the disintegration of her marriage, she made a decision that surprised people close to her: she shared her story with the world. In 2023, she published a Modern Love essay about her experience. Her new book, “Strangers: a Memoir of Marriage,” reveals more of her story. On today’s episode, Belle Burden talks about the abrupt and difficult end to her marriage, and how that led her to the start of a new life. How to submit a Modern Love Essay to the New York Times How to submit a Tiny Love Story   Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.

    55 min
  7. Subscriber Exclusive: This Week’s Modern Love Essay

    9 JAN · BONUS • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    Subscriber Exclusive: This Week’s Modern Love Essay

    Strangers stared when we held hands in public. Some assumed I was her adopted son. Every Friday, subscribers to the New York Times can access the latest Modern Love column read aloud. The Modern Love Podcast publishes full-length episodes every Wednesday. This week’s essay is "She Was 40. I Was 20. Could We Make It Work?" written by David Woo.

    9 min
  8. Want to have better sex this year? Here’s how.

    7 JAN • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    Want to have better sex this year? Here’s how.

    Do you think you could be having better sex? Are you confident you know what really turns you on? What makes your body feel good? How do you communicate about it? Nicole McNichols wants everyone to be asking these questions. Dr. McNichols is a psychology professor at the University of Washington, where she teaches a class on human sexuality to over 4,000 students a year. She has immersed herself in decades of research on what makes a good, fulfilling sex life — and she has the data to back it up. Her new book, “You Could Be Having Better Sex,” is full of practical tips, backed by science, on how to have truly fulfilling sex. On this week’s episode of “Modern Love,” Dr. McNichols explains the most common misunderstandings people have about sex and shares practical advice for how to level up your sex life. What’s the most romantic thing that has ever happened to you? What’s the most romantic thing you’ve ever seen? If something made you feel that rush of romance, send us a voice memo, and we may use it on the show. Check out our submission page to learn more. How to submit a Modern Love Essay to the New York Times How to submit a Tiny Love Story Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.

    41 min
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For more than 20 years, the Modern Love column has given New York Times readers a glimpse into the complicated love lives of real people. Since its start, the column has evolved into a TV show, three books and a podcast. Each week, host Anna Martin brings you stories and conversations about love in all its glorious permutations, dumb pitfalls and life-changing moments. New episodes every Wednesday. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.

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    2015 - 2026
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    471
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